Celebrating a Girl’s Rite of Passage

July 15th, 2009 by Ann

Frankly, I’m not big on a lot of the pomp that often surrounds birthdays. I like to keep our celebrations intimate and un-hyped. But Elizabeth’s thirteenth is coming up and this passage is one I want to acknowledge with a true ritual — one that helps her with a new self-identity in the adult world. And I want to do this with a sense of the sacred and an element of the mysterious. So I’ve written to the women she respects and loves the most (they’re scattered all over the country) to ask them to send her some piece of advice that they wish THEY would have gotten from an older woman friend when THEY were thirteen. I also asked them to send something small and special — a beautiful rock?, a poem?, an extraordinary bookmark? — something that she can tuck away and pull out when the going gets rough to remind her of the women who have weathered their lives’ storms and hopefully give her a boost of support to see her through her own life’s challenges. Finally, I asked all of them to tell Elizabeth what she means to them — her essence, I guess. As their gifts arrive, I will collect them into a handmade basket or wooden box and give them to her at a special moment when she and I are together.

For other ideas about coming-of-age and rites of passage, consider purchasing the Chinaberry book, The Joy of Family Traditions by Jennifer Trainer Thompson

Tags: , , , , , ,

3 Responses to “Celebrating a Girl’s Rite of Passage”

  1. Leslie Says:

    Thank you so much! I am looking for some ideas similar to Raising a Modern Day Knight….except for girls. This is the only thing I have found!

  2. Ali at Chinaberry Says:

    Sarah, we’re glad you liked Ann’s idea and post. I think I might also do that for my girls when they are turning 13. Thankfully, they’re only 7 now. Thanks for your comment. We hope you visit us often. -Ali

  3. Sarah Says:

    I LOVE this!!!!

Leave a Reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.